Last week we talked about the roadblock of stubbornness in change. We focused on redirecting our energies and embracing change.
This week, we are moving on to #3 on our list….the not so appealing “pity party”.
Posted on a wall in our office we have a hilarious poster that reads:
“Breaking News: The Pity Train has just derailed at the intersection of Suck it Up and Move On, and crashed into We All Have Problems, before coming to a complete stop at Get the Heck Over It. Any complaints about how we operate can be forwarded to 1-800-waa-aaah.”
How great is that?!
Few people, if any, are comfortable with organizational change. In fact, you could say most of us hate it. The problem is we tend to personalize what is going on, rather than look at the big picture, hence the pity party.
In change, we tend to make the assumption that if we feel sorry enough for ourselves, others will join the party and feel sorry for us too. We also make the assumption that if it weren’t for the “pain” of change, there would be no pain.
The big problem with this thinking is we focus on the loss and sacrifices as opposed to what we might be gaining. What we need to see is that it is usually “pain” that precipitated and even caused the need for change. The truth is, if we could just manage through the short-term “pain” of change, without the pity party, what would be waiting on the other side is gain.
The fact is…there IS going to be “pain”. You can choose the pain that is going to keep you where you are or you can choose the pain that is going to get you where you need to go.
The question is:
Do you really have a choice? If you think the “pain” in adapting is tough, try not adapting.
It’s a good point to keep in mind for next week when we talk about “playing the new game by the old rules”.