Fear was the topic of discussion in last week’s blog. We pointed out the importance of managing fears that are ignited by change. More importantly, we discussed the need to recognize these fears as “real or perceived”. When fears aren’t analyzed and categorized everything can seem like a fight. In most cases in life and especially organizational change it is important to, “Choose Your Battles”.
Making the decision to engage in endless battles, whether internal and external, are going to get you nowhere. They are a waste of time, energy and resources.
Making sure your emotions are in check will be key in being able to decipher what is worth fighting for and what is not. We have all heard the saying, “Don’t sweat the small stuff”… exactly the point here. Choose the battles that you can impact and let go of those that you cannot.
This makes me think of a bad call in baseball. The 3rd strike is called on a pitch that clearly bounced in the dirt in front of the plate. You know it was not a strike and the umpire is wrong. The question is- what is to be gained by fighting with him? We all know an umpire is not going to change their mind; you are fighting a losing battle. There’s nothing to gain and often times plenty to lose.
The challenge in this is to not let your emotions get in the way of your logic. Are you committed to the “cause” or are you committed to the emotion?
“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s measured by your ability to make the best of what life has to offer.” -C. JoyBell C.
If you are constantly fighting against the tide maybe it is time to reevaluate what is really taking place. We suggest you make the decision to transfer your energy and use it on things that will help you find success. The secret here is defining and redefining what success looks like to you. After you have a clear picture of this, develop a logic-based strategy that will allow you to keep emotions at bay when choosing your battles.
You have time between now and next week to commit to the cause and find clarity in how you want to make decisions around choosing your battles. If you do this, you will likely be a step ahead as we take on our final faulty thinking error- Checking Out Emotionally. Choosing your battles is the first step towards keeping yourself connected.